Looking for a ceremony reading or blessing? Here are five of my favorites. Which ones are missing from the list? Share with us your favorite wedding readings!
To Love is Not to Possess
By James Kavanaugh
To love is not to possess,
To own or imprison,
Nor to lose one’s self in another.
Love is to join and separate,
To walk alone and together,
To find a laughing freedom
That lonely isolation does not permit.
It is finally to be able
To be who we really are
No longer clinging in childish dependency
Nor docilely living separate lives in silence,
It is to be perfectly one’s self
And perfectly joined in permanent commitment
To another–and to one’s inner self.
Love only endures when it moves like waves,
Receding and returning gently or passionately,
Or moving lovingly like the tide
In the moon’s own predictable harmony,
Because finally, despite a child’s scars
Or an adult’s deepest wounds,
They are openly free to be
Who they really are–and always secretly were,
In the very core of their being
Where true and lasting love can alone abide.
Somewhere I Have Never Traveled
by e.e. cummings
omewhere I have never traveled, gladly beyond
any experience, your eyes have their silence:
in your most frail gesture are things which enclose me,
or which I cannot touch because they are too near
our slightest look easily will unclose me
though I have closed myself as fingers,
you open always petal by petal myself as Spring opens
(touching skillfully, mysteriously) her first rose
or if your wish be to close me, I and
my life will shut very beautifully, suddenly,
as when the heart of this flower imagines
the snow carefully everywhere descending;
nothing which we are to perceive in this world equals
the power of your intense fragility: whose texture
compels me with the color of its countries,
rendering death and forever with each breathing
(I do not know what it is about you that closes
and opens; only something in me understands
the voice of your eyes is deeper than all roses)
nobody, not even the rain, has such small hands
Blessing of the Apaches
Now you will feel no rain,
For each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no more loneliness,
For each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two bodies,
But there is one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place,
To enter into the days of your togetherness.
And may your days be good and long upon the earth.
Pathways
by Rainer Maria Rilke
Understand, I’ll slip quietly
away from the noisy crowd
when I see the pale
stars rising, blooming, over the oaks.
I’ll pursue solitary pathways
through the pale twilit meadows,
with only this one dream:
You come too.
Thoughts on Marriage
By Mark Twain
A marriage…makes of two fractional
lives a whole;
it gives to two purposeless lives
a work, and doubles the strength
of each to perform it;
it gives to two
questioning natures
a reason for living,
and something to live for;
it will give a new gladness
to the sunshine,
a new fragrance to the flowers,
a new beauty to the earth,
and a new mystery to life.
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Getting married in the next couple cold months ahead? Bring the frosty and wintry magic to your reception with simple touches like in the photo above.
Here are a few items that you will definitely need to capture the perfect winter wonderland decor:
- Twinkling white lights
- Branches (spray painted silver is optional)
- Candles
- Hanging crystal strands
- White wedding flowers
- Snow berries
- Glass vases
Vendor Credit:
Event Planner: Allison van Every
Event Design and Flowers: Water Lily Pond and Pod & Seed
If you’ve rented the centerpieces for your wedding flowers reception tables, giving them away to guests is obviously not a good idea. But if you’ve created centerpieces and want to make one guest at each table feel like a lottery winner, give them away, but do it fairly. Here are a few ideas - some mundane and some a bit of fun - for dispersing your highly coveted reception table centerpieces equitably!
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There are lots of reasons to be married al fresco, and you don’t have to be limited to the hot summer months! With contingency plans, you can tie the knot in the great outdoors during any time of year (yes, even winter). Here are some things to consider:
They say that if it rains on your wedding day, it is supposed to bring good luck to the marriage. This is only true for those couples that have a backup rain venue, or a ton of umbrellas.
During the summer, an evening wedding might be preferable due to excessive heat during mid-day and even through the late afternoon. Also, the reception will then go into the night, when there will surely be some relief.
This means providing shade if it’s going to be hot, or a source of warmth if it may be chilly (consider a heated tent – although this isn’t exactly cheap; blankets are a cozy alternative and can be shared…how romantic). Give special consideration to elderly and handicapped guests, for whom the elements and terrain of the venue can present increased difficulty.
I mean the real-live creatures here, people. Save the figurative ones for your honeymoon. Critters can be the most relentless wedding crashers, and will prove to be even more annoying than the drunkest guest at the reception. Plan to provide citronella spray or candles around the site, or handle the pests in some other way…but do plan for them.
This could greatly affect your guests’ ability to hear the ceremony. There are other factors that could affect the sound quality also, so be sure to visit the ceremony site during the time of day (and time of year) that your wedding will take place and make note of any external or environmental noise that will likely be present. Had I done this myself before my own lakeside wedding, I would probably have realized if you choose to get married in front of a busy marina, your guests are far more likely to hear the boat engines than your vows.
This is an especially important consideration if it will be hot and particularly if there will be a buffet or other food set out. Talk to your caterer about timing and cooling of food in order to keep it appetizing and, most importantly, safe! Nobody wants to eat shrimp cocktail that’s been baking in the sun for four hours.
If you’re getting married during the warmer season, offer non-alcoholic beverages before the ceremony, such as water with lemon or iced tea. Alternatively, if you’re planning a winter outdoor wedding, you may want to provide hot cocoa or some other steamy beverage to warm them up upon their arrival.
No, I know you’re both consenting adults. I’m not talking about that. If you’re getting married at a public place, such as a park or beach, check to see if you need permits, especially for alcohol on the premises. Your guests don’t want to see the happy couple leave for their honeymoon handcuffed in the back of a squad car.
Provide information to your guests about environmental factors that you anticipate and that they can prepare themselves for. For example, if your wedding site will be soft and grassy, you may want to advise the women (and maybe some of the men, depending on your guest list) not to wear heels. This information should be included in the invitation rather than the welcome packets, so that they have the time and resources necessary to plan for the event.
Make sure to order wedding flowers that can last on the outside, stay away from hydrangeas, gerberas and lisianthus, you can use flowers like poms, roses, orchids (they are very strong), athuriums, callas and minicallas.
Posted by Anak Desa
Weddings can be very expensive but many brides are finding creative ways to save money without compromising on quality. There’s nothing to stop you from getting the wedding you’ve always wanted. You just have to think a little out of the box and more creatively. Here are some ideas to get your juices flowing.
1. Choose or find a venue that is already beautiful and lush with flowers and well kept lawns. There are usually parks or gardens with these characteristics.
2. Plan to use wedding flowers that are readily available and in season. This will save you a lot of money. Although it may seem like a good idea at first, holding a wedding during February is not cheap. In February, flower prices are very high due to Valentine’s Day.
3. As far as possible, hold your wedding during the festive season i.e. during Christmas or Easter when most Churches are already decorated with beautiful flowers! You just have to find a church with the type of wedding flowers that you like.
4. If you know someone else who is getting married about the same time that you are, you can save even more money by coordinating flowers and splitting the cost.
5. Use the internet to shop around for the best deals on flowers and consider buying from www.theflowerexchange.com. You can use a product comparison website to locate suppliers with the cheapest prices without compromising on quality. The Flower Exchange.com guarantee fresh flowers so you don’t have to worry about whether or not the flowers will be fresh when they arrive.
6. Another money saving idea is to arrange your own flowers such as bouquets of simple roses tied together with a ribbon. If you’re not confident enough to do it, you can find simple guides online on how to arrange flowers for weddings. You can also just ask a friend or a family member to do it for you.
7. Cheap flowers such as carnations when used in abundance so that the blooms are packed together can be quite striking. Visit some online florist websites and browse their pictures of wholesale flowers in the weddings section for some ideas.
8. Avoid imported or exotic flowers unless they are cheaper than the ones that are locally available.
9. Using very large arrangements can be very expensive so it’s a good idea to use as few as possible. You can save even more by limiting the number of people in your wedding so that you don’t have to do many bouquets!
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Posted by Lisa Nelson of Elegant Event Design October 15, 2009
Ah…one of my most favorite subjects! I just love to decorate with wedding flowers. Fresh flowers make a wedding so romantic. The right blooms in the right amounts can also make your wedding stand out from all the others.
When I plan a wedding, I could go on and on and on with flowers! The right flowers can really enhance a theme. Of course, decorating with flowers alone, can be, and is – a very expensive proposition. I am going to talk about how to use wholesale flowers to your advantage to set off the feeling and theme of your wedding - without breaking the bank.
We cannot talk about flowers without talking about theme because everything must compliment the theme of your wedding. This would include flowers, linen, food, invitations, number of guests - everything. If everything does not complement, your event becomes jumbled and non-cohesive. You also must look at your budget realistically. A black tie wedding with heavy-upgraded linens, 5 course meal, and elaborate flower arrangements for 200 people - is not going to work with a 30K budget - at least not in the DC/Baltimore area. Also, you must realize that you do not have to have a black tie wedding to have something extremely nice and elegant. Any themed wedding can be very nice and elegant - as long as it’s cohesive from beginning to end.
For a more casual fun affair, think about fun arrangements in vibrant colors. Some flowers choices that may work would be tulips, Baby’s Breath, lily of the valley and a variety of grasses. Think about Gerber Daisies to add some color, and Peonies, Hydrangea, Dahlias to add some girth. Put your blooms in fun containers (a basket for a country affair, a seashell for a beachy theme, a fresh pot for a springy theme) and feel free to play with different shaped containers, tables and the like. For instance, submerge cut fruits and other tropical fruits in glass vase, with some lighter blooms protruding out of the top. Opt for a floral headpiece rather than a formal veil. Keep things light, airy, fresh - but always coordinated throughout.
For a fall affair, I like to use darker flowers, with vegetables, husks, wheat, and hay - to honor the harvest. For winter, try some Manzanita branches, or curly willow, hypericum berries, holly, wreathes with white and blue florals - or maybe red and orange for the holiday. For spring, wild flowers are great for a fresh wedding. Tulips are beautiful fully blown open and make a stunning presentation. Peonies are great. For summer, try something colorful, but more formal - like roses of all varieties. Gardenia is very nice - would work well as a floating bloom - but also offers lots of fragrance. If you are sensitive to smells, then this bloom is not for you.
For a more formal affair, try wholesale roses, ranunculus, all varieties of lilies (calla, etc), orchids, stephanotis and the like- in darker more subdued colors. Hydrangea also looks very nice as its size makes arrangements fuller. For a formal space that could use some height, think about tall or tall and short more formed arrangements (less airy - more roundy-moundy) and incorporate elegant and elaborate candlelight.
Posted by Mary of mywedding.com
Are you planning to embark on your honeymoon armed with a giant vase full of your leftover wedding flowers ? What, that’s unlikely you say? If you’re flying, that means that you will need to be able to cram them all into a 3-ounce test-tube sized water receptacle and zip that into a teeny baggie for security purposes. If you can do that, kudos for being conservative with your resources but I don’t think they’ll show up very well in your photos.
On the other hand, if you’re a member of the vast majority who doesn’t know what to do with those lovely blooms after they’ve enhanced your celebration, consider donating your wedding flowers to brighten the days of sick or elderly members of your community. Check with local hospitals, nursing homes and assisted living centers in your wedding area to see if they will accept your donation, and also find out how they would like the flowers to be delivered. It’s possible that they will send somebody to the reception facility to pick them up, which would make the task especially easy to accomplish…just make sure they don’t schedule the pickup before you’ve said your I Do’s! Otherwise, you could delegate the responsibility to a friend or family member who will be available after your wedding day to help.
Check out the following websites for some guidance in your search for a facility in your area:
American Hospital Directory
Nursing Home Info
Assisted Living Info
You can also donate the leftover food from your reception to a local food rescue group that will bring it to a local shelter or soup kitchen that day. They will send delegates to march into your reception and demand of each of your guests: “Hey, you gonna finish that?” before yanking their plates out from under them and emptying the gourmet fare into a giant doggy bag. I kid. I think. Anyhoo, unlike food banks, who cannot accept perishable items, food rescue groups will be able to put your leftovers (that haven’t been served, of course) to good use. See the I Do Foundation’s tips page for more information on donating your leftover reception grub.
You can also get in touch with a community soup kitchen to find out about local food rescue groups. Or contact the Second Harvest Organization, which is an extensive network of food rescue programs.
Autumn is always a great time of the year. There is that terrific crispness in the air that signals the beginning of wool sweaters and hot cocoa. Usually, fall is the time to switch back to earth tones, but this year all trends point to livening up traditional colors, such as burnt sienna and olive green, with pops of bright and vibrant color accents.
In your floral arrangements you can use orange minicallas with purple lisianthus. Perk up white roses with black magic red roses or even the black baccara roses which will give your arrangements that velvet look that is always beautiful in the fall . Your wedding flowers can be all bronze color mixed with brigth yellows and purples.
Many brides will be walking down the aisle this summer because who can resist the classic strapless dresses, the romantic summer breezes and, most importantly, all of the beautiful floral options available this time of year.
Bright colors are everywhere this season. From pinks, to purples, to orange and peach tones, there are so many wonderful choices for brides to make. Dahlia’s are always a popular choice because they come in a variety of shapes and colors. Dahlia’s add vibrancy to any bouquet, or floral arrangement and stand up well in the heat!
Roses are also perfect for summer, but forget your idea of the traditional red rose and experiment with the many colors and varieties that are in abundance. Garden Roses, like the Yves Piaget, make the perfect replica of peonies, which is the most popular wedding flowers by far, yet is not in season in summer. They are also more cost effective than peonies
If you are planning a wedding this summer, I encourage you to think dahlia’s and roses to set a colorful stage for your special day.
- Amy Child Marella | Owner | Hidden Garden Flowers